Thoughts

If we can accept discomfort has purpose, it’s easier to meet our discomfort with compassion. With a gentle, “I’m so sorry this happened” with a lack of pressure to “get over it.” We can meet it with kindness and patience. What was this event meant to show you? What was it meant to teach you? Who did you need to shift into because it happened?  

20 things you should consider giving up in 2020 to live a happy, healthier life.

Sometimes the best way to move forward is to lose hope for something we want by understanding that positive change can come from multiple directions. The world is full of possibilities that haven’t even come into our awareness yet. 

The seasons are changing, temps are cooling, and we are stepping into the slower momentum of Autumn. 'Tis the season to grab a cup of hot pumpkin-spiced coffee, a bowl of butternut squash soup, and hide out under your favorite blanket. Although I can get behind a lazy day, I'm not a fan of a lazy mind. Here are five books to cozy up to this fall that will shift you back into your life, your power, and your purpose.

Change your life with these 10 affirmations designed to restructure neural pathways and bring more magic into your life.

The lessons I learned from eavesdropping on a conversation between two men at Starbucks.

I had this moment where I was thinking of what in my life I’ve been gripping tightly without even noticing. And I want to ask you the same thing: Are you holding onto the windshield making sure it’s not going to fly off, when in reality it’s not going anywhere? Often, we grip things we are afraid to lose. We try to control them by focusing our mental energy on them. We worry, we ruminate, and we drain ourselves of useful energy that could’ve been put towards creating a life that feels good. 

 The reality is what’s meant for us doesn’t need to be gripped. SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!

Look, miracles can be small and more often than not they present as subtle shifts and little moments. You don’t need to part the pool at the YMCA to have an epic day or to know that the Universe has your back. If big magical occurrences happened daily you wouldn’t notice them. You wouldn’t see all of the tiny details creating your epic, wondrous life. You’d roll your eyes and be like, “oh look, another sea parting.” Yaaaaawwwwnnn. 

So maybe I can be doubtful…but, saying I'm wired for doubt is blatantly neglecting my balancing qualities. You see, I’m also fiercely wired for hope. I used to think hope was spiritual but hope is a cognitive process. Hope requires intentionally believing in a positive outcome. Hope demands you see the best in people or situations. Hope requires surpassing rough moments to know deep down there’s a way to move through them and out of them.Hope is power. Hope is transformative. And sometimes, so is doubt. You heard me correctly. Sometimes doubt is intuition telling you something is super wrong, even if you can’t put your finger on it. And you mustlisten. You must ask the hard question, what isn’t right here? And even more importantly, how can I change it or my perception of it? 

This is the very serious message, “don’t quit 5 minutes before the miracle.” Our hearts know where we are supposed to be and when we listen to them, we always end up in the right place. I think what holds us up is, on occasion, our heart-led path doesn’t appear the way we hoped. Maybe its messy or disappointing bursting with setbacks and roadblocks. But the good news is, appearances aren’t the best measure of progress. It’s rare to be able to see the invisible forces merging together to create a better reality for you. Without being able to see it, the only thing left is to trust. 

It’s not like upon meeting perfect strangers I’m requesting you delve into the fact you’re adopted, you peed the bed until you were 8, and your dog only has three legs. Super not necessary. But there is something to be said about what is considered common practice when it comes to making new connections. Authenticity is only fashionable in small doses, despite being the most heavily researched way to truly connect to another human. But what would happen if we didn’t have to fake it? What if at a job interview we were honest instead of pretending to be hyped about how much we LOVE excel spreadsheets? Would the earth come shattering to an end?Does faking it hurt us in the long run? Does it impact our ability to connect with ourselves if a good portion of our day is spent pretending to be a happily lit up shell of ourselves? Does it ultimately block authenticity and happiness? Maybe it’s just me but I’d love to know about what the best part of your day is. I’d love to know what lights you up. I’m dying for you to tell me a weird and random fact that makes you more human. 

We look hard for moments to return to because it is safer to go back to what we know. It’s scary to only hope you will fall in love again or create something incredible once more. It’s difficult to believe amidst the pain that joy and happiness are around any corner. Certainty is easier than uncertainty. Knowing is easier than not knowing. But we simply can’t go back, nor can we stay somewhere mentally or physically that’s destroying us. Maybe you're forgetting the bad parts, maybe its a situation that can no longer exist. OR maybe just maybe, God has something better in store for you and you’re doing yourself a major disservice by staring at the wood grain on a closed door without noticing you just stepped into a botanical garden.