Of course, we can approach hardships and crisis with as much grace as humanly possible but the truth is, sometimes life kicks us so hard to the ground it feels damn near impossible to get up. Our soul might feel sucked from our bodies and hope drained out of our hearts. This is the crucial point. The one where you want to throw in the towel. The one where you want to stop trying. But here’s the thing… you can’t. Because I know you and you’ve worked too hard to quit now. You’ve come too far. Not every knockdown has to be a knockout. Don’t stay down there. Fight for it. Even when you’re tired. Even when hope is low. Because your life and happiness are worth the fight.
Look, here’s the thing. I love me, but sometimes I’m not kind to me. Sometimes I joke about my love handles. Sometimes I doubt my ability to do epic stuff. Sometimes I say “good” to someone saying “hi” because I anticipated they were going to say, “how are you?” instead. Face palm. So, I put together a little list to help you out with the things that I’ve learned that boost my self-love up, up, and away.
You can apologize when you’ve hurt someone or done something harmful. But do not apologize for being a person with wants and needs. You can respect the viewpoints of others without shrinking your own. You can have people say bad things about you without believing it yourself. You can show up each day and try your damn best, and that truly IS enough.
There’s a lot you can learn about yourself when life changes. You learn what steadies you. You learn what you grip onto. You learn what no longer serves you. Change is equally terrifying as it is wrapped in hope. But the one thing I feel more certain of than I have in 30 years is that no matter the change, it will be what you make of it. Here is a quick guide to not only surviving change but thriving through it.