The Art of Surviving and Thriving Through Change
There’s a lot you can learn about yourself when life changes. You learn what steadies you. You learn what you grip onto. You learn what no longer serves you. Change is equally terrifying as it is wrapped in hope. But the one thing I feel more certain of than I have in 30 years is that no matter the change, it will be what you make of it.
You get to decide what kind of life you are going to live. You get to decide if you embrace the new elements and people. And you're the only one who gets to choose how you view it. It’s your life determine from here on out what you are going to do with it. How you want to respond to it. You get to establish what your made of.
Here is my mini-guide for the art surviving (and thriving) change:
1. Don't look back. You're not going that way. Although I typically encourage people to reflect on where they have been and use it to guide where they want to go, I believe change is one of those things you have to dive in head first. If you spend too much time looking backwards you will want to go back to the familiar, the safe, and this will stunt your ability to embrace what is in front of you.
2. Be curious. Use different parts of your personality with this new part of your life. New opportunities allow different pieces of ourselves to surface. Try a new hobby. Meet new friends. Attend black light yoga by yourself. Drive to the end of the road you haven't been on. Make a new friend. Get curious about your new life, new surroundings, or new people.
3. Make plans and get excited. Find things to be excited about whether its a new paint color or new experience. Get enthralled in opportunity. When I moved to South Carolina, I looked up every cafe' in driving distance so I could spend a morning at the places I thought looked the coolest. Dare yourself to see what's possible. Find the little things to be stoked about.
4. Rest and repeat. As active as change can be, it might also need space to be passive. Maybe this comes with a little extra alone time. A little extra self care. A little extra journaling or Netflix binging. An extra long soak in your garden tub. Nap. Rest. And when you're ready, come back to your heart. Back to your goals. Back to all of the things that make you feel most you.
Wishing you all the love and light with whatever change you're up against. You've got this. Need a little extra help? Book a coaching session with Nichole or grab her book Rock Your Soul: The Down-to-Earth Guide to Mastering Your Mind.