Thoughts

It’s not like upon meeting perfect strangers I’m requesting you delve into the fact you’re adopted, you peed the bed until you were 8, and your dog only has three legs. Super not necessary. But there is something to be said about what is considered common practice when it comes to making new connections. Authenticity is only fashionable in small doses, despite being the most heavily researched way to truly connect to another human. But what would happen if we didn’t have to fake it? What if at a job interview we were honest instead of pretending to be hyped about how much we LOVE excel spreadsheets? Would the earth come shattering to an end?Does faking it hurt us in the long run? Does it impact our ability to connect with ourselves if a good portion of our day is spent pretending to be a happily lit up shell of ourselves? Does it ultimately block authenticity and happiness? Maybe it’s just me but I’d love to know about what the best part of your day is. I’d love to know what lights you up. I’m dying for you to tell me a weird and random fact that makes you more human. 

 I saw this coming. But no fireworks detonated when the clock struck midnight. Confetti didn't shoot out of the ceiling. Instead, I quietly put my kids to bed and fell asleep. But a flip switched in me, and I realized I’m done settling for anything less than exactly what I want. Out of life, out of my career, out of relationships, and out of myself. And that comes with consequences. It comes with hard conversations and loss. It comes with intense clarity and uncomfortable energy.But it comes with FREEDOM and TRUTH. Because to make true change you have to get uncomfortable. Like standing in the middle of the grocery store in your birthday suit uncomfortable. (Don’t actually do that. Unless, of course, you want to.) 

You can apologize when you’ve hurt someone or done something harmful. But do not apologize for being a person with wants and needs. You can respect the viewpoints of others without shrinking your own. You can have people say bad things about you without believing it yourself. You can show up each day and try your damn best, and that truly IS enough.

Success isn’t just your achievements. It’s not even always how you impact the world. Some days success is just going to mean that you got through it. Some days success will be domestic goddessing and cupcake baking with your kids on a Saturday night. 

Success is in getting to know yourself. Listening when everything in you tells you to be and not do.

Even if it’s hard. Even if you HATE it while its happening. It will be done soon. And on the other side is something incredible. It’s strength and power. It’s a belief in yourself you didn’t have before. Whether it’s working out or taking a new step in your life to change it. Quitting that job or leaving that relationship. Or whether it’s a move across the country. All things uncomfortable will find their way to comfort if you hold your intention, act, and push through it. Remembering why you started.