Thoughts

If we can accept discomfort has purpose, it’s easier to meet our discomfort with compassion. With a gentle, “I’m so sorry this happened” with a lack of pressure to “get over it.” We can meet it with kindness and patience. What was this event meant to show you? What was it meant to teach you? Who did you need to shift into because it happened?  

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I had this moment where I was thinking of what in my life I’ve been gripping tightly without even noticing. And I want to ask you the same thing: Are you holding onto the windshield making sure it’s not going to fly off, when in reality it’s not going anywhere? Often, we grip things we are afraid to lose. We try to control them by focusing our mental energy on them. We worry, we ruminate, and we drain ourselves of useful energy that could’ve been put towards creating a life that feels good. 

 The reality is what’s meant for us doesn’t need to be gripped. SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!

So maybe I can be doubtful…but, saying I'm wired for doubt is blatantly neglecting my balancing qualities. You see, I’m also fiercely wired for hope. I used to think hope was spiritual but hope is a cognitive process. Hope requires intentionally believing in a positive outcome. Hope demands you see the best in people or situations. Hope requires surpassing rough moments to know deep down there’s a way to move through them and out of them.Hope is power. Hope is transformative. And sometimes, so is doubt. You heard me correctly. Sometimes doubt is intuition telling you something is super wrong, even if you can’t put your finger on it. And you mustlisten. You must ask the hard question, what isn’t right here? And even more importantly, how can I change it or my perception of it? 

This is the very serious message, “don’t quit 5 minutes before the miracle.” Our hearts know where we are supposed to be and when we listen to them, we always end up in the right place. I think what holds us up is, on occasion, our heart-led path doesn’t appear the way we hoped. Maybe its messy or disappointing bursting with setbacks and roadblocks. But the good news is, appearances aren’t the best measure of progress. It’s rare to be able to see the invisible forces merging together to create a better reality for you. Without being able to see it, the only thing left is to trust. 

We look hard for moments to return to because it is safer to go back to what we know. It’s scary to only hope you will fall in love again or create something incredible once more. It’s difficult to believe amidst the pain that joy and happiness are around any corner. Certainty is easier than uncertainty. Knowing is easier than not knowing. But we simply can’t go back, nor can we stay somewhere mentally or physically that’s destroying us. Maybe you're forgetting the bad parts, maybe its a situation that can no longer exist. OR maybe just maybe, God has something better in store for you and you’re doing yourself a major disservice by staring at the wood grain on a closed door without noticing you just stepped into a botanical garden. 

My point is, I thought life would look different. And not that life is bad. I just had a vision I’d wake up and suddenly know everything there is to know. Yet, here I am regularly hiding out from specific moon phases and planets spinning backwards. Intention is important, but I think expectation can be harmful. Because when the expectation doesn’t arrive how you thought it would, you start feeling like a total failure. Like you’re the only one who doesn’t know the secret recipe to a sauce everyone is cooking. Click here to read more...

Of course, we can approach hardships and crisis with as much grace as humanly possible but the truth is, sometimes life kicks us so hard to the ground it feels damn near impossible to get up. Our soul might feel sucked from our bodies and hope drained out of our hearts. This is the crucial point. The one where you want to throw in the towel. The one where you want to stop trying. But here’s the thing… you can’t. Because I know you and you’ve worked too hard to quit now. You’ve come too far. Not every knockdown has to be a knockout. Don’t stay down there. Fight for it. Even when you’re tired. Even when hope is low. Because your life and happiness are worth the fight.

Last night I made a list of everything I was afraid of, which is totally how normal people spend their Wednesday nights. Fear doesn’t have to be a phobia. Fear sometimes looks like things we are avoiding. Fear can come dressed as insecurities wearing mismatching shoes and a handbag from last season. Fear lives deep in our epicenters of interaction with other people, restricting us from fully connecting or being authentic. It whispers things like “this isn’t going to work out” or “don’t get too close; they will leave”. Fear is tricky, but most importantly, fear is as real as the Unicorn. 

As a society, we are convinced that we are to stay in jobs for 50 years until we either jump off a cliff or retire. We are convinced we need to be in marriages until literally someone dies. And we sit in mediocrity, contemplating why life is so freaking boring. Contemplating why there isn’t more. Well, guess what? There is! There is more. But you have to start changing the way you are doing things or you will never, ever see it. You have to be willing to not settle. You have to be willing to cut ties with those who can’t meet you half way. You have to be willing to take a leap of faith out of a soul-sucking job. You have to be willing to sucker punch fear in the face and see what’s on the other side. 

Have you ever had those moments where not a damn thing felt sturdy? Like you’re walking on a tightrope delicately trying to balance, even though the wind is blowing you all over the place?The times where it seems like everything is a bit funky are where hope seems the bleakest. Like someone shoved hope in the jar of grandmas cookies that she used to keep way above the stove. The problem with this is that faith can truly be a reprieve of your darkest moments, if you let it. So here’s how you might find it again, if it maybe got muddied up by the universe, planets, or *gasp* even your own self sabotage.

Look, you’re smart. I guarantee it. You know what you want and you’re totally capable. But can I remind you that you didn’t create like, oceans and stuff? That you didn’t create humans and you didn’t give birth to an entire galaxy. Can you trust for five damn minute that the Universe KNOWS what the hell it’s doing? Perhaps you don’t need to tightly grip everything?