If we can accept discomfort has purpose, it’s easier to meet our discomfort with compassion.With a gentle, “I’m so sorry this happened” with a lack of pressure to “get over it.” We can meet it with kindness and patience. What was this event meant to show you? What was it meant to teach you? Who did you need to shift into because it happened?
You can apologize when you’ve hurt someone or done something harmful. But do not apologize for being a person with wants and needs. You can respect the viewpoints of others without shrinking your own. You can have people say bad things about you without believing it yourself. You can show up each day and try your damn best, and that truly IS enough.