Thoughts

It’s not like upon meeting perfect strangers I’m requesting you delve into the fact you’re adopted, you peed the bed until you were 8, and your dog only has three legs. Super not necessary. But there is something to be said about what is considered common practice when it comes to making new connections. Authenticity is only fashionable in small doses, despite being the most heavily researched way to truly connect to another human. But what would happen if we didn’t have to fake it? What if at a job interview we were honest instead of pretending to be hyped about how much we LOVE excel spreadsheets? Would the earth come shattering to an end?Does faking it hurt us in the long run? Does it impact our ability to connect with ourselves if a good portion of our day is spent pretending to be a happily lit up shell of ourselves? Does it ultimately block authenticity and happiness? Maybe it’s just me but I’d love to know about what the best part of your day is. I’d love to know what lights you up. I’m dying for you to tell me a weird and random fact that makes you more human. 

My point is, I thought life would look different. And not that life is bad. I just had a vision I’d wake up and suddenly know everything there is to know. Yet, here I am regularly hiding out from specific moon phases and planets spinning backwards. Intention is important, but I think expectation can be harmful. Because when the expectation doesn’t arrive how you thought it would, you start feeling like a total failure. Like you’re the only one who doesn’t know the secret recipe to a sauce everyone is cooking. Click here to read more...

Of course, we can approach hardships and crisis with as much grace as humanly possible but the truth is, sometimes life kicks us so hard to the ground it feels damn near impossible to get up. Our soul might feel sucked from our bodies and hope drained out of our hearts. This is the crucial point. The one where you want to throw in the towel. The one where you want to stop trying. But here’s the thing… you can’t. Because I know you and you’ve worked too hard to quit now. You’ve come too far. Not every knockdown has to be a knockout. Don’t stay down there. Fight for it. Even when you’re tired. Even when hope is low. Because your life and happiness are worth the fight.

 I saw this coming. But no fireworks detonated when the clock struck midnight. Confetti didn't shoot out of the ceiling. Instead, I quietly put my kids to bed and fell asleep. But a flip switched in me, and I realized I’m done settling for anything less than exactly what I want. Out of life, out of my career, out of relationships, and out of myself. And that comes with consequences. It comes with hard conversations and loss. It comes with intense clarity and uncomfortable energy.But it comes with FREEDOM and TRUTH. Because to make true change you have to get uncomfortable. Like standing in the middle of the grocery store in your birthday suit uncomfortable. (Don’t actually do that. Unless, of course, you want to.) 

Look, you’re smart. I guarantee it. You know what you want and you’re totally capable. But can I remind you that you didn’t create like, oceans and stuff? That you didn’t create humans and you didn’t give birth to an entire galaxy. Can you trust for five damn minute that the Universe KNOWS what the hell it’s doing? Perhaps you don’t need to tightly grip everything?

Success isn’t just your achievements. It’s not even always how you impact the world. Some days success is just going to mean that you got through it. Some days success will be domestic goddessing and cupcake baking with your kids on a Saturday night. 

Success is in getting to know yourself. Listening when everything in you tells you to be and not do.

There’s a lot you can learn about yourself when life changes. You learn what steadies you. You learn what you grip onto. You learn what no longer serves you. Change is equally terrifying as it is wrapped in hope. But the one thing I feel more certain of than I have in 30 years is that no matter the change, it will be what you make of it. Here is a quick guide to not only surviving change but thriving through it.

  In the midst of making one of the biggest changes of my life, making the move from my all-my-life home town in Upstate, New York to an adorable ...

And when all this shifting is happening and all the things, people and places are disappearing. When it feels like you've been misplaced and left behind. That you've been moved and forgotten. When it feels like nothing is on your side, not even God. This is where your trust takes full force. You have to trust that what lies ahead is greater than what's left behind...and other freakishly true euphemisms

I've thrown all my knowledge and YEARS of training not only in my book, but in my intuitive coaching. I've created trainings to help you step back into yourself, to regroup your power. To begin designing a life that you are OBSESSED with.